Five Givens (with some explanations)

These five things are a certainty in life.

1. Everything changes and ends.
2. Things do not always go according to plan.
3. Life is not always fair.
4. Pain is part of life.
5. People are not loving and loyal all the time.

These truths will visit you if they haven’t already. Learn to live with them. Embrace them. And most importantly, teach them to your children.

Stupid people like me live in denial of these truths. I am not sure why this is?? Eternally optimistic? Always hopeful for the best in life and others? Hell, I don’t know… maybe I was holding onto ideals that once seemed to transcend these truths in my mind.

In talking with a good friend the other day, I was reminded that there is no need to perpetuate pain in your life by refusing to embrace the truth that is before you. Pick any of the five listed above and time and again over the past year and a half I have had these truths beating me on the head, trying to get me to admit that they were there… and yet I refused to acknowledge them.

Hope occasionally would visit my door with promises… but it was an illusion. My happiness will not be found in trying to roll back the hands of time. My happiness is in front of me. It’s waiting on me to come to it.

My world has been redefined by the steady beat of these five truths over the past two years.

Things change. Situations change. People change.

Everything eventually ends. Nothing lasts forever. Forever is a myth.

My plans are will fail. My ideals will as well.

Life isn’t fair. The word “fair” should be stricken from the dictionary.

Pain is part of our existence. When I was born, I was born into a life of pain and suffering.

People… they will let me down. They have let me down.

From the book “The Five Things We Cannot Change” by David Richo.

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