Hello. My name is Steve.
I was born in Texas in 1963. My mom and dad were very good parents and provided me a pretty typical upbringing. As the youngest of three children, my brother and sister would probably say I was spoiled. Life at our house wasn’t without hardships or challenges, but overall we were very fortunate.
We went to a large, evangelical, conservative Southern Baptist church. I was very involved in the youth groups growing up. What I learned in the church skewed my view of the world and gave me a very limited and narrow perspective on most subjects. I’m thankful for my roots, however I’m also very happy my perspectives have broadened.
Around the age of 15 or 16, I seemed destined to enter church ministry and did so immediately following high school. After some stints at small Baptist churches in Texas, I came out to California in 1989 to work at Saddleback Church. Eventually I became the High School pastor and worked with Rick Warren for three years before being replaced by Doug Fields. At the time, I was disappointed but I look back on it now as a good turning point in my life. I have great memories of the people I met while there, but the Saddleback style of ministry was not healthy for me.
Life moved from bad to worse when I was shipped to Woodmen Valley Chapel in Colorado Springs for about a year. It was such a bad ending, I’ve tried to block it from my memory for the most part. The leadership was controlling and vindictive, and I was removed from my position there for no real clear cause. This was by far the darkest time in ministry.
I knew after these experiences at Saddleback and Woodmen Valley that I no longer wanted to work in the church, but I just didn’t know how to get out since it was all I knew professionally.
In 1993 I returned to work at a church in Orange County, CA working with Tim Timmons. Tim restored what little faith I had in pastors and churches. I’m thankful for the six years of working there and for Tim’s style of graceful leadership and ministry. That job ran its course after about six years and I left in 1999.
Church work had finally lost its appeal and I was looking for a drastic change. Through a network of friends and relationships, I was able to get into business and start a career for myself in the technology field. I worked for someone else for four years and then ran my own business for two more years before settling in where I am at my current company since January of 2006.
I no longer have any affiliations with the church. Further, if you want to know me, you need to know that I no longer adhere to the belief system I grew up with or held as a pastor. If you want to know why, I’m sure it will come out as I write here or elsewhere but most of it boils down to what is true for me. Christianity no longer fits in that category. I can’t fake a belief that doesn’t exist.
Most importantly and above all, my family is the core of my life. I am in the midst of a relationship (since June 2009) with someone, now my wife, who daily helps me be the man I should have been many years ago. Together, we have three adult sons that make us very proud parents, because of who they are becoming .
Thanks for reading.
Originally written January 2011. Edited December 2020.